Vegan mother is horrified to find her ex-husband has been feeding their daughter, 8, chicken nuggets behind her back – but people say SHE is the problem
- Vegan mother believed to be from the US complained about ex-husband online
- Explained were co-parenting and raising daughter. eight, as a vegan like them
- But revealed ex-husband allowed the child to eat chicken nuggets behind back
A vegan mother has been left horrified after discovering her ex-husband is feeding their daughter chicken nuggets behind her back.
The mother, believed to be US-based, explained that she shares custody with her ex-husband who she split up with 15 months earlier after he cheated on her.
She explained that she’d become vegan in the first place to suit her ex-partner, who didn’t want animal products in their house and controlled her diet while she was pregnant.
However, she told Reddit’s Am I the A****** that the father had been feeding nuggets to their eight-year-old behind her back, prompting her daughter to ask if her mother hates her for eating meat.
The mother said she was happy with her daughter choosing her own diet, but admitted she resents her ex-partner for not communicating the change to her.
However, some people slammed the mother and said she was being controlling over her daughter’s diet.
A vegan mother from the US slammed her ex-husband for feeding chicken nuggets to their daughter, whom they were raising on a vegan diet, without telling her (stock picture)
Explakining the situation, the woman said that in spite of tensions between herself and her ex over his cheating, he’s a good father and they have been managing to co-parent successfully.
But this changed when her daughter had a tantrum after coming back from her dad’s house.
‘She has a full. blown. meltdown demanding chicken nuggets,’ the mother said.
‘She howls her way through a bowl of leftover soup.She hates me, I’m a terrible mom, Dad would have let her eat chicken nuggets. She wore herself out crying,’ she added.
The mother said she didn’t mind the fact her daughter wanted to eat meat, but said she was annoyed her ex-husband had not given her a heads-up
Next day, the youngster was upset and worried that her mother might ‘hate her’ for eating meat.
‘She was upset when she woke up this morning asking if I ‘hated’ her because she ate meat (OBVIOUSLY, obviously, obviously not),’ she explained.
‘I spent the entire drive to school reassuring her that I’m not angry with her but that I was surprised that she wanted them.’
And while she was not annoyed with her daughter, the mother said she was ‘p*****’ with her former partner.
Some people said the vegan mother was ‘going overboard’ and couldn’t control what her daughter ate
‘I AM f***** p***** because I wasn’t aware our hitherto vegan daughter was now eating meat and I feel like that’s a decision that I should have been informed about,’ she said.
‘I called him after she went to bed and he told me I was being uptight and he didn’t tell me because he knew I’d overreact. I’m controlling and I don’t need to be privy to every single thing he does when our daughter is with him,’ she said, quoting her ex-husband.
‘I’m f****** MAD. There are vegan options at McDonalds – he didn’t have to feed her chicken but since he did, I would have appreciated a heads-up,’ she added.
The mother also called out her ex for controlling what she ate during her pregnancy before changing his mind and ‘shovelling c***’ into their daughter by taking her to McDonald’s every week.
‘I feel wildly, wildly frustrated that he unilaterally made this choice. I feel like I should have been made aware. I try to keep him updated on her stuff when she’s with me,’ she concluded.
While many were supportive of the mother’s story, agreeing her husband should have given her a heads-up, some argued she shouldn’t have been raising her child as a vegan to begin with.
‘If she is old enough to fear that you hate her for eating meat, she is old enough to decide if she wants meat,’ one said.
‘I hope he gives her steak next time,and I am a vegan. You make us look bad,’ they added.
Other people said it was reasonable for the mother to want to know about her child’s diet change
‘You literally sound like a whining child. Just because you want her to be vegan does not mean she has to. Its her choice to eat meat, not yours. So what he did not tell you? He didn’t have to,’ said another.
‘You do not have a “vegan daughter”. You have a three-year-old who will literally eat paint chips off the wall if you don’t pay enough attention, who you happen to feed vegan foods,’ one said, before adding, ‘unless there’s a custody arrangement specifying a vegan diet, you kind of just have to deal with it.’
‘If she doesn’t want to be vegan it’s not fair to force her to be. Just like if a kid wants to be vegan it’s not fair to force them to eat animal products,’ one said.
‘I get the idea of sharing things between parents, but expecting him to tell you everything she eats is overboard,’ they added.
Some people said the issue was not with veganism, but the lack of communication between parents.
‘This thread is full of children who are mad at mommy and daddy for not feeding them cookies whenever they want. It’s hilarious,’ one siad.
‘He is the a****** in this scenario. The child ate no meat products from conception to 8-years-old. The father made a drastic change to the child’s diet without consulting the mother,’ one said.
‘It seems like it’s more about years of the ex’s disrespect. Which OP is entitled to be p***** off about. NTA, and the ex is the asshole for not discussing this parenting move with OP, letting her know what was happening,’ another wrote.
‘The guy is 100% the a****** for putting his daughter in the position of hiding something from her mother AND for putting her in the situation where she’s going back and forth between drastically different diets,’ one said.
‘He’s her father, he needs to act like an adult and communicate,’ they added.
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