DEAR DEIDRE: MY “girlfriend” took her own life when she found out I was chatting to other women.

We’d met just six months before. We are both 27 and met online.

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We’d been out a few times and I was still chatting to other people online, while I made my mind up about our relationship.

I thought she was doing the same.

We got along so well and I was about to ask her to be my girlfriend when her sister messaged me to tell me she’d been having mental health problems for years – I’d no idea – and she’d taken an overdose.

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We were due to have our first weekend away together, but now she’s gone.

I feel broken. I keep thinking about what I could have done to save her.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know you couldn’t have done anything.

As her sister said, she had been living with depression for years. You didn’t push her over the edge as her mental health issues went way back to a time before you’d even met.

You can find help from Support After Suicide (, an online hub for suicide bereavement charities and organisations.

Get out and lean on friends and family for support until you come to terms with losing her.

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