A BRIDE-TO-BE explained that she had taken the difficult decision not to invite her sister to her wedding as her severe disability would make it too hard to have her as a guest.

The woman said that her sister Anna, 21, had severe autism that affects her behaviour.

She said that her sister will often try and kiss her fiance and she doesn't want to risk the same happening on their big day.

Writing on Reddit, the bride-to-be said: "She has severe autism and while she is verbal most of her communication is 'physical' like sign language due to her social discomfort.

"She does speak around family though and has pretty bad cognitive skills. She can't comprehend boundaries and lives with our parents so they can best watch her."

She went on to explain how this could affect her big day.

She said: "I am getting married in 3 months. We planned a simple wedding and reception at my fiance 'Michael's' parents barn and farm.

"Since it's all gonna be DIY and we aren't planning anything too expensive, we can do things pretty quickly since flowers, food and decor will be provided by his family.

"I sent out invites last week and I asked that Anna not come. I told my parents I understood that would mean they may not show up but it was just a heads up.

"Why no Anna? She has an issue with touching Michael and trying to kiss him.

"At times when we were at my parents house Anna would try and grab Michael's hands, try to lean in to kiss him or would have a really bad shutdowns if she wasn't allowed to be directly next to him.

"We've tried speaking to her but there's only so much we can do when she doesn't really understand."


But the woman's parents were not very understanding of her decision.

She said: "I told my parents I just want one day for Michael to be my partner and not Anna's comfort person.

"They called me selfish and asked how I expected them to agree to something like this.

"They told me Anna is disabled and may never experience a wedding of her own and while I have Michael for probably the rest of our lives she'll have no one and that Michael and I can be a little more understanding to the reality of her life."

She later posted an update saying that her parents had made the decision not to attend the wedding either.

She explained: "My parents called me letting me know they won't be coming and that it's best I don't bring Michael around anymore since I've 'chosen some man over my sister'.

They called me selfish and asked how I expected them to agree to something like this.

"They told me that Anna wanting to kiss Michael and hug him is normal for a women her age and that she doesn't understand what her feelings mean.

In an attempt to find as solution the bride-to-be offered to pay for a carer for the day.

She said: "I asked if I could pay for someone with proper credentials to watch her that day while they attention and they asked what I would do when they died and if I'd pawn her off every time."

People were quick to share their opinion on the forum.

One said: "You’re right, she is incapable of leaving your fiancé alone on the only day she needs to leave him alone. Best wishes to you and your future husband!!"

Another agreed: "Regardless of her disabilities, this day isn’t about her. If your parents can’t understand why she isn’t invited, then they can sit it out too."

While a third said: "Your fiancé deserves to feel safe and comfortable at his own wedding, instead of being worried about being accosted by your sister."

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