DEAR DEIDRE: LIFE has changed beyond recognition in two dizzying months.
I was in a secure relationship, in a lovely home with a man who was a great dad to my son.
Now I’m sofa surfing with friends, my relationship is over and I’m expecting a second child. It’s all gone horribly wrong.
I’m 32 and have one son, aged four. I raised him on my own after my childhood sweetheart walked out.
Despite a rocky relationship with my mum, she was a saint and took me in.
I always knew I wanted a second baby, but vowed to wait until my life was sorted and I felt I was on track.
Three years ago I met my partner through my sister. He was her colleague and had been single for two years.
He was exactly the sort of man I’d been looking for — hard-working and driven, but also family-orientated.
He treated my son like his own from day one.
Last November, we rented our first home together. Everything had fallen into place.
So when I found out I was two months pregnant, I was over the moon.
But my partner freaked out and insisted the baby couldn’t be his.
I don’t know where he got this idea from.
The next day, when I was at work, he packed up my stuff, changed the locks and taped a note to the front door that said: “I’m sorry, but I can’t do this. Your stuff is in the garage.”
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Now I’m staying with friends. There’s so much to consider and I’m feeling overwhelmed.
So much so that I’m considering getting rid of my baby.
Please help. I’m confused and scared.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry you’re in such an overwhelming and worrying predicament.
It is hard to know why your partner had such an extreme reaction, but there is no excuse for kicking you and your son out.
Your priorities now are to your son and to decide whether you want to keep your pregnancy.
If you do decide to go ahead, your partner will have a financial obligation to the child.
Please contact your GP so you can talk it all through.
My support pack Unplanned Pregnancy shows you where to find support locally.
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Reach out to Shelter (shelter.org.uk), who can help advise you on your living situation.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support. There are plenty or organisations who will help you whatever you decide.
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