My husband's cruel words put me off sex and now I am hooking up with another man

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband said I looked ridiculous and refused to have sex with me when I dressed up sexily on a weekend away.

I felt humiliated. That was five years ago. We’ve had no sexual contact whatsoever since.

I’m a 46-year-old male and my husband’s 47.

We’ve been together for 20 years. Our sex life has always been very vanilla and sporadic at the best of times.

I joined a married dating site a couple of years ago as I was so desperate for some sexual contact.

I’ve met a few men but it’s always been just a bit of fun.

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Then I clicked with a guy the moment we met.

The sex is amazing, but I honestly feel like this is completely different to the flings I’ve had before.

We love spending time together.

I’ve fallen in love and want to leave my husband but I feel very trapped.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband’s comments were cruel, but he will be devastated if he learns of your affair.

You’re in the heady, early days of romance with your lover but before you make your final decision, be sure it’s the right choice for you.

Leave because you are unhappy, not because you have a lover to turn to.

Tell your husband you are not happy as things are and you’ve thought about leaving him.

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