DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE got a holiday booked with mates, including my so-called best friend who has become controlling and aggressive, especially over any contact I have with women.

He goes storming off if I chat up a girl up when he’s around.

I’m a 24-year-old guy and I had sex with an 18-year-old girl recently. I met her in a pub where I do a bit of singing. This mate said I had a “duty of care to customers” and I should be sacked.

He’s only 25 but he said he’d want to kill me if she was his daughter. He then started calling me a paedophile, which was the last straw.

My last girlfriend was 22 and my mate said she was too young. When I said it wasn’t his business, he threatened me with violence but then said it was a joke. I’ve been on a TV talent show and he’s always quick to tell people about it, explaining that I’m some sort of local celebrity.

He then loves watching me squirm when people say, “come on, give us a song”. He does it to embarrass me. His ex told me he was controlling with her. I’m wondering whether to pull out of this holiday. I’ve had enough of him trying to run my life.

DEIDRE SAYS: Either your friend is jealous of the success you have with the opposite sex or he fancies you himself – though he may not have admitted that to himself.

Either way his behaviour is controlling and offensive.

Arrange to meet him for a serious talk somewhere neutral. Say that he must back off and leave you to run your own life or you can no longer be friends.

My e-leaflet Standing Up For Yourself explains assertiveness techniques. If he doesn’t change then, I doubt you’d enjoy the holiday anyway.

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