‘We’re still humans and I want people to respect us’: Pregnant transgender man reveals his fears about giving birth in Texas, admitting he is worried about how staff will treat him
- Wyley Simpson and his boyfriend Stephan Gaeth, 27, document the incredible story of their accidental pregnancy on We TV reality series Extreme Love
- He was transitioning from female to male when he became pregnant
- The San Antonio-based couple incorrectly believed they wouldn’t be able to conceive a child because Wyley has been taking testosterone since 2012
- In a teaser clip, Wyley admits that he is nervous to give birth in a Texas hospital, explaining he wants to be called the proper pronoun and treated with respect
- Wyley and Stephan explain in the show that they thought about giving their baby up for adoption; they later reconsidered and named their son Rowan Fox
A pregnant transgender man has admitted that he is scared to stay in a hospital in San Antonio, Texas, because he is unsure how he will be treated.
Wyley Simpson and his boyfriend Stephan Gaeth, 27, share the incredible story of their accidental pregnancy on Friday night’s episode of We TV’s reality series Extreme Love, which takes an intimate look at the real-life relationships of the most unusual couples from around the globe.
‘I’m probably the only transgender male that’s pregnant, probably, in Texas,’ Wyley explains in a teaser clip. ‘How would I be treated as a transgender individual in the hospital?’
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Miracle: Wyley, a transgender man, and his boyfriend Stephan share the incredible story of their accidental pregnancy on Friday night’s episode of We TV’s reality series Extreme Love
Surprise: Wyley was transitioning from female to male when he became pregnant
Footage from the episode shows a smiling Stephan sitting next to Wyley as he undergoes an ultrasound exam.
Seeing their baby on the monitor makes them realize just how unprepared for the birth they are. When asked if they’ve taken any prenatal classes, Wyley simply responds: ‘Not just yet.’
‘It’s a little nerve-wracking,’ Stephan tells the camera. ‘It’s making it all feel like it’s about to happen. I’m like, where’s the birthing bag? We’re not ready.’
While they’re both feeling a bit unprepared to welcome their first child, Wyley has additional fears about giving birth.
‘I am scared of the pain. I’m not going to lie about that,’ he says in his testimonial.
Wyley also admits that he is worried about how he will be treated as a transgender man when he is in labor.
‘Okay, this is not something you’re going to see every day, a man going through birth,’ he says, ‘but, at the same time, we’re still humans and [I want people] to know to call us by our correct pronouns and to respect us.’
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Whoops! The San Antonio couple incorrectly believed they wouldn’t be able to conceive a child because Wyley has been taking testosterone since 2012
Concers: Wyley admits that he is nervous to give birth in a Texas hospital, explaining he wants to be called the proper pronoun and treated with respect
Decisions: Wyley and Stephan have considered giving the baby up for adoption
Wyley identifies as a transgender male and was transitioning from female to male when he became pregnant.
‘I have always felt uncomfortable in my female form body. I always felt different, like I am stuck in something that I don’t see as myself,’ he said.
‘Once I hit puberty, that was a big turning point for me. I was just like, I want my chest gone. I want to have facial hair, but I didn’t really know anything about that. I didn’t know how to explain that.’
Wyley said he started dressing in guys clothes and looking more masculine, but he still wasn’t happy with his physical appearance.
He started testosterone in 2012 and got top surgery in 2013. However, he has yet to have bottom surgery, an operation to create a penis.
‘Everybody that I dated in the past, they didn’t accept me for who I was or they were all okay with it up to an extent, probably up to about where we became physically intimate,’ he says of his female genitalia.
Wyley explains that Stephan ‘knew right off the bat’ that he was a transgender male. The two met on Grindr, a dating app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people.
Struggle: Wyley says he has always felt uncomfortable in his female body
Start of it all: Wyley said he didn’t know who he was when he was a tween (left). When he hit puberty, Wyley started dressing in guys clothes and taking on a masculine appearance (right)
Transition: He started testosterone in 2012 (left) and got top surgery in 2013 (right). However, he has yet to have bottom surgery, an operation to create a penis
‘The bio of his Grindr account said something like, “Country boy, loves the wild, loves animals, vegan” and then like a picture of a tree,” Stephan says of Wyley.
Stephan says they questioned whether Wyley could get pregnant, but they both believed he couldn’t conceive a child because he was taking testosterone.
Wyley had previously revealed in an interview with KENS5 that he had not had a menstrual cycle ‘in years’ when he met Stephan.
‘We talked about testosterone and what he had been told by his doctors and what we had believed to be truth. Turns out, that wasn’t truth,’ Stephan explains in the teaser clip for Extreme Love.
Wyley found out he was pregnant at 11 weeks after struggling with morning sickness.
‘I was nervous. I was very emotional, I started crying. I didn’t know what to do,’ he recalls of his surprise pregnancy.
The couple, who live in a converted bus in their friend’s backyard, explain in the show that they considered giving the baby up for adoption, with Stephen admitting: ‘As a gay person, I don’t think I ever really planned for biological children.’
Love: Wyley said Stephan met on Grindr, a dating app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people
Shock: Wyley found out he was pregnant at 11 weeks after struggling with morning sickness
Hard to believe: ‘As a gay person, I don’t think I ever really planned for biological children,’ Stephan admitted
However, they later decided that they would keep the child and raise him together as a family, despite Wyley worrying about having to stop his testosterone treatment in order to carry and give birth to their child.
‘For me, personally, especially being on testosterone for six years, I would have to stop treatment if I wanted to continue the pregnancy,’ he told KENS5.
‘So that was my main scare, especially after being on it for so long. How it would affect me mentally, that was my main concern.’
Once they had decided to commit to parenthood however, the couple went all out and ‘did a lot of talking [and] a lot of preparing,’ working together to figure out the best birth plan for them.
Now, after welcoming a healthy and happy baby boy named Rowan Fox, the couple has returned home to their backyard bus, where they are living with their newborn.
They said that they hope to start traveling the country in the vehicle sometime soon.
‘The amount of support has been tremendous,’ Stephan said. ‘That has helped me have confidence in parenthood, [and learn to] rely on help when needed.’
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