A woman who was rinsed for her table manners has hit back at critics.
She denied being a “slob” when people accused her of holding her cutlery “wrong”.
On Mumsnet, she wrote: “I’m right handed. I hold my fork in my right hand and knife in left. This is the way I’ve always done it and felt comfortable, was never told or taught the correct way.
“For years my partner has joked about how I can’t hold a knife and fork properly and even mentioned trying it the other way. I’ve tried – it doesn’t feel right to me. He told me that his mother would probably tell me to switch hands as it’s her ‘pet gate’.
“We’ve been together for nine years. He’s not mentioned it for a while (until tonight) and I’ve avoided eating in front of his mother as much as possible else I feel paranoid. Feel like I’m being watched!
“Generally my table manners are okay I think. I’m not a complete slob when It comes to eating or anything!”
The woman asked fellow mums for advice, writing: “Am I being unreasonable to think it doesn’t really matter?”
Her post garnered hundreds of comments – and it proved to be very divisive.
While some reassured the anonymous mum she’d done nothing wrong, others accused her of being “lazy” for not learning the etiquette properly.
One responder wrote: “Well I’d definitely notice and judge you for it I’m afraid.
“It’s about table manners. Children with special needs I can make an exception for, but there’s no excuse for adults – ‘it isn’t comfortable for me’ is a bit of a pathetic excuse.”
Another said: “(It) shows a disregard for social norms and disrespect to your hoses and general laziness that you can't be bothered spending a bit of time learning to do it properly.”
And a third added: “It depends on the company you keep.
“I often eat with people in professional situations and lapses of table manners such as holding a knife and fork incorrectly would certainly be noticed.
“If you were at my table I would never comment, but we are teaching our children to have correct etiquette as it may be important for them one day.”
Even though some were picky about the table etiquette, others aren’t fussy about cutlery.
A Mumsnetter said: “I honestly cannot bring myself to care enough about which way a person holds their knife and fork.
“Do it whatever way works best for you, I honestly cannot see how it matters which way round you hold them.”
A second commented: “As long as you keep your mouth closed while you chew you can hold knife and fork in any hand you want.”
And another added: “I have no respect for people who judge how another person holds their cutlery. It’s rude and unnecessary.”
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