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The run-up to a wedding is always difficult.
From wedding dress stress to guestlist woe, there's many things that can be a nightmare to sort ahead of the big day.
But one woman has asked for advice dealing with an overbearing future mother-in-law – who doesn't think she has acted badly.
On Reddit, the 26 year old woman explained how her fiancés mum has always been overbearing but that she didn't mind.
But it has now created a huge issue as the woman does not accept her son's partner's wishes to never have children.
Now they are in a row after the future bride asked her dad to drive her home during their engagement dinner.
She explains: "I (F26) just got engaged to my fiancé (M32) who's the only son my future mother in law has, and she is incredibly involved in his adult life, at first that didn't bother me as I see it as a good thing that he has a good relationship with his mom but it started getting worse with her constantly getting involved in my personal life as well.
"His family decided to have a small celebration for our engagement and they invited my family for dinner.
"I wasn't so comfortable with having a celebration cause I felt that my fiancé and I should decided whether we want it or not, anyways, I had my mom,dad,brother attend.
"We met some of his family members there as well, things were going fine, until my mother in law talked about wedding/honeymoon and stuff like that.
"My fiancé was talking and I just sat there listening, she then started talking about future grandkids and this is when I got uncomfortable.
"I'm living childfree and planning on living childfree all my life, and I think that it mostly because of experiencing a traumatic death of my younger sibling (my sister) who was sick and I was the closest one to her.
"She was young and during her sickness I felt like I was being a mother to her, my parents knew how much her and I were connected and her death was so devastating.
"I will never know what it feels like to lose a child but losing her felt like a piece of me was gone.
"I don't want kids thinking they'd be gone one day and I'll have to deal with this awful pain for the rest of my life like how I'm dealing with my sister's death.
"I already discussed this with my fiancé but instead of telling her to drop it he just let her go on, my parents noticed her behavior.
"My dad told her that I wasn't planning on being a mom, but she just laughed it off and said that I'll change my mind, the started making a toast.
"She made a toast saying "to my future grandchildren" I got sick of it.
"I quietly told my fiancé that I wanted to leave but he told me to wait.
"I turned to my dad and asked him if he could drive me home and my family all got ready to leave, my mother in law tried to pressure us into staying but we left eventually.
"In about 30 minutes after her guests left I got a call from my fiancé telling me his mom wants to talk, he gave her his phone and she blew up on me for walking out and embarrassing her infront of her guests and brought up the kids topic and said that she get a say in that.
"She berated me for 5 minutes then hung up on mem my fiancé called but I ignored him.
"I went home with my family feeling awful, the whole situation sucks.
"And I cried feeling hurt by them and their lack of consideration and them just steamrolling my decisions as a person like that."
Many people rushed to reassure the woman that she had not acted unreasonably at all.
One warned: "Your MIL is only part of your problem. The bigger problem is that your fiancee supports her and not you.
"He handed her the phone so she could berate you after leaving a dinner where she insulted you and tried to dictate whether you'd have children.
"Consider this a preview of what it will be like to be married to her because you essentially will be."
Another added: "Who in the hell gives the phone to their mother and lets her yell at his fiancée?!?!
"This man has no spine. If you marry him, you will end up miserable, and probably pregnant when she sabotages you’re bc."
A third advised: "I am really really sorry, but I think you need to reconsider your plan to marry this guy.
"That engagement party was just a tiny taste of what your married life will be like."
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